Post by thesentientpasty on Mar 20, 2020 23:58:14 GMT
My Mum was put down today.
She had had a fall in January. Spent (it's hard to say, we can't work it out) maybe 10-16 hours on the floor at home, before being found by a neighbour. Then spent seven weeks in a hospital, being barely cared for. Got punted into a lovely care home nine days ago.
We dressed her room, made it awesome.
Last night, after a "chat" with her doctor earlier this week, and after a horrific night for my Mum, a nurse gave her ten times the normal dose of sedatives.
As a result she died at 10.20 this morning. This was, of course, illegal
I spoke to the nurse about an hour later, and could do nothing but thank her. We tend to treat our pets way better than our relatives.
Me? Mebbe another whisky and then to bed.
BTW, should I ever get like that, a dose of the happys will be fine, thanks.
My sincere condolences. A horrid time to go through and you have my genuine sympathies.
Personally, I think you (and the doctor and nurses) did the right thing. And, like you, I really hope that when my time comes that I have people like you all around me to give me that gentle final push over the finishing line. Yes, we treat our pets better and with more dignity.
My brother was given an extra dose of morphine to ease him over - all done on a kind of a 'nod and a wink' basis. To make him feel "more comfortable" they said, when everyone in the room knew what it really meant. My belief is that it happens more often than is openly spoken about. An unspoken truth maybe? I don't know. I'd like to think it's true at any rate.
Pasty, I know the grief will be there but I hope you can draw some comfort from having eased your mum's passing, having taken away her pain. As I say, I think you did the right (and decent) thing. Courage, as they say in France.
My thoughts are with you Patsy, words are inadequate at times like this. I know only too well from my own loss last year what the waiting for the end is like for both the afflicted and the remaining family, and our loss only stretched over a few weeks. Our nursing staff have a thankless task at times and the current situation world wide will put even more stress upon them, let us all thank our health care workers for their dedication even when faced with difficult decisions.